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What Is Courage?

Laura Bozarth — Wed, 31 Oct 2018 20:48:13 +0000

How do you define courage?

Is it something only “strong” people do?

Do you use what you think is courage but don’t get the results you want?

Courage is something only YOU can define.

When you try to measure yourself by someone else’s definition of courage you will always fall short.

If you want to start on the courage path, start with something small.

What is one thing you’ve been trying to muster up the courage to do? Break it down in very small bits. Start at the first bit and keep moving forward.

The big jumps you see others taking usually come from lots of small [...]

Don’t Ever Force Yourself To Be Happy

Laura Bozarth — Mon, 15 Oct 2018 16:15:42 +0000

How to be happy, get happy now, change your life through positive thinking,,, the underlying message here is you are doing it wrong. Change it and you’ll feel better. Nothing could be further from the truth. The truth is we are human and we are going to feel lots of stuff. Most of it probably won’t be good. Despite of this you can still feel GOOD!!! Stop fighting the thoughts, give them alternatives instead. Example: “I don’t know why they don’t talk to me anymore, what’s wrong with me.” Alternative: People can think and do whatever they want with their lives and it has nothing to do with [...]

It’s Okay To Want To Just Feel Good

Laura Bozarth — Fri, 12 Feb 2016 20:40:50 +0000

After signing up to work with me, a female client quietly whispered: “Is it OK if I don’t want to do something really big in my career? What I don’t want to move up to Director or something like that? Is it OK if my only goal is to feel good?”

This is where some coaches fail with their clients.

In the personal development world we see all these quotes and blog posts about how we need to be getting better, bigger, and letting go of anything were afraid of. If we don’t, we’re just living in fear.

The fact is I [...]

Why Are You Hiding?

Laura Bozarth — Wed, 20 Jan 2016 23:46:26 +0000

I’ve been hiding most of my life.

I hid behind my marriage and perfect looking life. I hid by my ability to make sure I always said the right thing. I hid by not engaging in conflict when it was necessary because I didn’t want to look like the bad girl.

I hid behind books, isolation and other activities that would keep me away from people.

I never asked for help.

And honestly nobody thought I ever needed it.

I was so damn scared of being vulnerable I just pretended that I was OK all the time. My standard answer was I was “FINE”.

But [...]

Why You Need To Leave Him Out of It

Laura Bozarth — Wed, 21 Oct 2015 17:26:13 +0000

When I am talking to a new client and she says I can’t do it because he wouldn’t like it or it would hurt his feelings, I cringe.

These women aren’t unintelligent nor are they week. They are just straight out people pleasers (sometimes not even knowing it) and perfectionists who are so concerned with the feelings of others that they often self sabotage themselves.

I know this because I was one of these women.

I was always worried about hurting his feelings. If I felt something seemed to bother him, I would either try to make it better or not do [...]

She Asked Me Who My Friends Are

Laura Bozarth — Wed, 30 Sep 2015 23:27:03 +0000

As a life coach I am fully aware of what creates outcomes in our relationships, but I still get stuck at times. This very week I did exactly what I told you to do in last week’s newsletter. I opened up about an issue I was having regarding being vulnerable with a group of female friends.

But remember, it’s important to reach out to the right people.

I didn’t just pick any group, I was very specific. I knew these ladies were okay with vulnerability and were super supportive of one another. When I aired my concern about something I wanted [...]

Just Because They Say It Doesn’t Mean It’s True

Laura Bozarth — Tue, 22 Sep 2015 22:49:30 +0000

Just because a lot of people say it doesn’t mean it’s true.

I used to spend a lot of time asking people their opinions on things. I needed to know what I was doing was right, what I was saying was correct and if what other people thought about me was true. I was seeking out other peoples opinion because I thought somehow they knew more than me. In the end I really realized I was seeking out their approval.

What a horrible waste of time! Not to mention a great way to sabotage my already low self-esteem.

The kicker was when I would believe [...]

My Article on Being A Good Girl On Your Tango

Laura Bozarth — Tue, 02 Jun 2015 00:15:57 +0000

Are your good girl tendencies driving you crazy? Is it stopping you from stepping into a more successful, confident version of yourself?

THEN YOU MUST READ THIS! It’s my article on “Why Your Good Girl Attitude Is Making You Miserable”

Here’s the link: http://www.yourtango.com/experts/laura-bozarth/why-being-good-girl-ruining-your-life-and-how-you-can-change-it

Why I Stopped Trying To Be Better

Laura Bozarth — Thu, 21 May 2015 20:26:55 +0000

I found myself on Facebook one morning and though it has been blatantly obvious for a long time, I couldn’t help to notice the over abundance of posts about how to get better at something.

It looked like this: “How to succeed better, how to meet your goals better, how to have a better relationship, how to lose weight better”

There was so much bettering (my word) on that page, it literally made me feel sick. How much time do we spend wasting on trying to be better? In that moment I decided to take the word better out of my [...]

Are You Ready To Get Uncomfortable Yet?

Laura Bozarth — Thu, 30 Apr 2015 02:29:12 +0000

After sending out my Get Comfortable In Your Own Skin home study program last week, I received a lot of different questions about the program and how people could benefit from it.

What I learned is that we are sometimes scared to be uncomfortable. The program focuses on getting comfortable in your own skin, but sometimes trusting that a new process or even outlook in life will work make us a little uncomfortable.

It feels counter intuitive when I say it, but it’s absolutely a hundred percent true. In order to get comfortable in our own skin we actually have [...]