I spent too many years doing everything myself. Taking care of my basic needs, my emotions, and stressful situations on my own. Asking for help was not something I was accustomed to doing. In fact I avoided any level of help from others because that meant vulnerability.
But avoiding that vulnerability never made me feel good. But that’s not why I avoided it; I avoided it because it felt safe. I was free from judgment, shame, or whatever negative emotion my mind told me would happen if I relied on others.
So I did it all alone and stuffed every possible emotion away. My stomach gave me all kinds of indications that this was a bad choice, but I didn’t listen.
On my journey to a better life, I began to slowly ask for help. I was amazed by the kindness of the people around me. I had changed and that change was reflected in the people who came into my life.
When I let go of my tight grip of control on my emotions and needs I saw a difference in my IBS symptoms. My body began to relax; I no longer felt the heavy weight of doing it on my own. And things got a lot more fun too.
If you’re struggling with physical pain or mental stress, take some time to ask yourself if you’re asking for and getting the help you need. If the answer is no, why not?
The simple step of asking for help may be the key to both emotional and physical freedom in your life.
Here are five ways to get started:
- Identify your what you need. Get really clear on it. Is it emotional support? Help with your daily schedule?
- Make a list of the people in your life and circle the ones that make you feel the safest and happiest.
- Go to a person on your list and ask for what you need. You can be honest and vulnerable without being needy if you are clear in your intentions.
- Be available to pay it forward.
- Trust yourself, you won’t regret it!