I’ve probably mentioned that change takes time and you have to give yourself flexibility when making big shifts in your life. But some shifts don’t have to take a long time. These are the kinds of shifts that start in your mind. As humans we are prone to thought ruts, those continual verses that play in your mind telling you why things are a certain way and how you should feel about it.
Not long ago I found myself in a spot I was uncomfortable with. I wanted to create a network within my community to share and promote my services. My thoughts were focused on the notion that I had to find a very specific certain group of people, my people. People who were like me in many ways, that way I was assured that they would understand my ideas, business, and services. Of course when you try to force things to be a certain way, it never comes to fruition because you are expecting a perfect version of it. Frustrated with where these thoughts were getting me, which was no where, I decided to step out of my comfort zone and think differently about the subject.
I then went out into the world with a new approach. My new approach included being open to the fact that there are many people who could benefit from my services. With this new approach, I now viewed my world differently and approached people differently, which in the end equaled better results. I was now projecting my energy in a clear, confident, non apologetic, passionate way. I was not longer looking for approval and had detached from the outcome. Too many of us attach our self worth to the approval of others. When we let go of that everything becomes easier, we just allow ourselves to be.
Once I removed myself from thoughts that they needed to understand me and like what I was doing and saying, it allowed me to be happy and carefree in the world. And guess what? The world responded with openness and interest. Suddenly many people were interested in my services. Others just wanted to chat with me more about what I do. The people who weren’t interested didn’t seem to matter. I was okay with that too. Did I look for approval? No. Did I plan it? No. Did I make it happen? No. By allowing yourself to be who you are, you can change how you are perceived, simply by the power of your presence.
Even if you don’t have your own business, changing your thoughts and approach can help you in a myriad of ways in the world. It can help you in an interview for a new job. It can help you get promoted to a better position in a company. It can help you develop leadership skills. In the end, what everyone is looking for is permission to be themselves. When you detach yourself from the thought ruts that are holding your confidence at bay, and display your best qualities, you now approach situations with a sense of clarity and assuredness that will influence your co-workers and employers alike. Give it a try; you may be surprised by the results.
Laura Tirello is a Career and Life Coach. Her company, Core Life Design, works with people who are looking to find their highest potential both in their careers and personal lives. Are you looking for ways to turn your ideas into goals for 2010? I am offering a free teleclass, “Shifting from Thinking to Doing: Creating a Mission Statement”. Email Laura at Laura@corelifedesign.com to sign up or visit corelifedesign.com for more information.