Some days are better than others, even for a life coach.
A couple of months ago I was in a funk getting frustrated doing some work on the computer that I really didn’t want to do.
I tried all my usual tactics like a timer, reminding myself it was just temporary, and doing some reading.
But the fact was I just really did not want to be doing that type of work, especially at that moment. It was a few days before a millennial birthday and I’d had a lot of personal things going on. As the frustration mounted and I told myself “you’ve just got to get through this”, I realized I couldn’t .
I needed a break. Better yet I needed to do something that felt fun.
I randomly decided I needed to do a selfie, which is rare for me. I didn’t want it to be just any old selfie. I wanted to put on a pretty shirt, put on darker lipstick, and fix my make up and do a serious pose. I wanted to reflect on myself in that picture, not just pose.
So I started snapping shots. When I was done and looked at the shots I was mesmerized. I felt like I looked beautiful in a way I’ve never seen before. I was being myself, but there was a sense of confidence in it. I was embracing myself, my sexuality, and my mood.
In that picture I began to love myself. It wasn’t because I thought it looked so pretty, it was because I understood myself. I knew who I was and what I was worth in that moment. I stopped forcing and pushing and did something that just felt good, that felt fun.
In essence: I allowed.
I let go of all that pressure to perform and needing to be really efficient.
I let go of the self torture and perfection.
I simply learned to just love myself.
I became so completely in love with myself, I couldn’t stop looking at the picture. A love that felt like contentment and an ease I hadn’t known in the past.
I loved myself even though I had finished my project. I loved myself even though I was frustrated and felt that my attention was off.
I loved the dark shadow created under my eye in the picture.
I loved my green eyes.
I loved the curve between my breasts.
I loved my big red lips.
I loved myself for just being me.
I loved myself, though I’d done nothing significant in that moment.
This is where the true power lies, acceptance is such a great feeling of love for yourself. That’s how you become confident, that’s how you create success, and that’s how you truly empower yourself in any situation.
My wish for you is that you can experience this amazing sense and allow it to transform your life.
I can help you.
I’d love to hear any questions or comments you have in your own journey of falling back in love with yourself.