The funny thing is it’s never about the money; there is always something else lurking in the shadows.
Don’t get me wrong; I know money is essential to live. I grew up in a working class neighborhood and attended school in the inner city of Philadelphia; everyday I got glimpses of what life is like without money.
But for the majority of us who aren’t in that situation, money is an obstacle we feel we have to overcome in order to get what we want.
Have you ever said this: “if only I had the money I could” or “I can’t do that because I don’t have the money”?
Sure you have, we’ve all felt that way at one point or another.
It’s when you get stuck in that language and don’t create any forward movement that you know its part of something larger. It’s part of a belief that you have that has a foundation in something you experienced that evoked a certain emotion. It was an uncomfortable emotion, something like fear, anger, or anxiety. In order to keep yourself safe from that feeling you created a belief that protected you from the discomfort it would take to challenge that idea.
In order to avoid the discomfort you have to avoid the underlying emotion you are really feeling. And let’s face it, after a long day of work, it’s tiring to ask yourself what really lies in the discomfort. This is especially true if you’re at a job you don’t like or are suffering from physical pain or mental stress.
So here’s something that is simple and works in the moment wherever you are.
Ask yourself: When you think about money where do you feel it in your body? What does it feel like?
When I first ask my clients this they often associate money with an uncomfortable feeling in their body. This is not surprising considering so many of us hold money as the key to our happiness. And if we’re not happy we think it’s because of something we don’t have.
Interestingly the more you open yourself up to your feelings towards money the more you can see where it is blocking you. Or more importantly where you are blocking yourself.
Try it for a week and see if that tightness loosens up. You may feel slightly less discomfort each time you face it.
In part 2 of Money on the Mind, I’ll share with you how not being clear on your money vibe will make you still feel stuck even when the money is there and obstacles no longer exist.