Not having the time is the number one excuse we all use when we aren’t getting the results we want. I won’t argue with the fact that our lives are jammed packed with activity. For many of my clients it’s work, kids, house chores, and bed. If you are suffering from physical pain or IBS, that adds a whole new level of stress into your daily routine. Regardless of what you may be dealing with in your life, the difference between my clients who get what they want and the ones who don’t is time management. You can’t delete your job or kids nor can you dissolve your pain immediately, but you can manage your life differently.
I have hated systems and resisted organization most of my life. It’s not that I can’t see the benefits, but I am very right brained and it felt too rigid to me to try to fit my life into such a regimented mold.
However, I’ve seen a shift in myself towards both systems and organization. Though it’s hard to see pain as a gift, that’s one positive thing that being in pain has given me.
When you are injured and you can’t do things the way that you’re used to, it’s very disconcerting. I used to be able to push things off as long as I wanted to and then could pick a random day to get everything done. It never felt particularly good, in fact it was somewhat stressful, but it was just the way I got things done. After being injured I really had to be very cautious of how I used my body so I couldn’t do very much at once, it was all about small things in small amounts of time. In living a life of turtle steps, I’ve developed a real knack for creating a rhythm in my life in which I can get things done in a peaceful, non-overwhelming way. In order to do this I did have to add more structure to my life.
Surprisingly, I really like it. It’s taught me a lot about myself and made me realize when I was making excuses in my life. It also showed me that when your mind is scattered your life rhythm reflects that.
If you are looking for more ways to understand your mind-body connection, I have some great tools in my e-book Listening to Your Gut: Connect with Your Body and Get IBS Relief.
Then I started thinking about how this could help you. You may have found me for a variety of reasons. Some of your are suffering from IBS or chronic pain, while others may have worked with me in the past as I did career coaching. Regardless of the issue you’re facing now, the way you approach life has a big effect on both your happiness and healing.
I hear from people with IBS that it disrupts their life and they just can’t accomplish what they want to accomplish. I don’t disagree, it definitely can put a damper on your life. However, if you create a rhythm in your life that is disrupted every time you have a flare-up it’s not really a rhythm. It’s really a reaction to your condition. So if you can learn to create a flow in your life that allows you to accomplish your goals and make time for rest when you need it, you can live a life that you enjoy regardless of what your body’s doing.
Life gets messy at times and you can’t make time perfect. However, when you set the intention that you want structured flow in your life that will make achieving your goals easier because you create a momentum within yourself. That momentum makes the hard days a little easier because it gives you something to look forward to. Without that momentum it’s like falling down only to get back up and fall down again.
Sometimes the hardest thing is just getting started. In part two of this blog, I’ll give you tips where to begin. Until then, I’d love to hear your thoughts:)
Great post Laura. I can’t wait for part 2. I think I have created more structure over the last couple of years in dealing with chronic pain without really knowing what I was doing . . . I think I need to look at this more as things get busier at work things are starting to change in my career and health habits. I struggle with not clinging to expectations and making a plan . . but perhaps this blog post will help me visualize structure instead of “a plan” which is too rigid to allow for rest.
I love this Melisa! That was so well said, visualizing structure instead of plan! You are right we get way too caught up in planning as a way to feel organized, when adding a little structure is maybe all we need to give ourselves time to rest and rejuvenate. The best plans come from feeling relaxed:)