When I am talking to a new client and she says I can’t do it because he wouldn’t like it or it would hurt his feelings, I cringe.
These women aren’t unintelligent nor are they week. They are just straight out people pleasers (sometimes not even knowing it) and perfectionists who are so concerned with the feelings of others that they often self sabotage themselves.
I know this because I was one of these women.
I was always worried about hurting his feelings. If I felt something seemed to bother him, I would either try to make it better or not do [...]
How many times have you heard people say they perform best under pressure? In our society the idea that applying pressure to a situation will reap the best results is very prevalent. It’s such a part of our psyche that we do it subconsciously. For many of us it’s a part of life, basically second nature.
For most people with IBS when the pressure increases so does the IBS symptoms. For years I put tons of pressure on myself without noticing how intensely it was affecting my digestive problems.
I just thought pressure was a natural part of life.
I’m not here [...]