Tagged: good girl syndrome

It’s Okay To Want To Just Feel Good

Posted on By: Laura Bozarth
It’s Okay To Want To Just Feel Good

After signing up to work with me, a female client quietly whispered:  “Is it OK if I don’t want to do something really big in my career?  What I don’t want to move up to Director or something like that?  Is it OK if my only goal is to feel good?”

This is where some coaches fail with their clients.

In the personal development world we see all these quotes and blog posts about how we need to be getting better, bigger, and letting go of anything were afraid of.  If we don’t, we’re just living in fear.

The fact is I [...]

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Why Are You Hiding?

Posted on By: Laura Bozarth
Why Are You Hiding?


I’ve been hiding most of my life.

I hid behind my marriage and perfect looking life. I hid by my ability to make sure I always said the right thing. I hid by not engaging in conflict when it was necessary because I didn’t want to look like the bad girl.

I hid behind books, isolation and other activities that would keep me away from people.

I never asked for help.

And honestly nobody thought I ever needed it.

I was so damn scared of being vulnerable I just pretended that I was OK all the time. My standard answer was I was “FINE”.

But [...]

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Why You Need To Leave Him Out of It

Posted on By: Laura Bozarth
Why You Need To Leave Him Out of It

When I am talking to a new client and she says I can’t do it because he wouldn’t like it or it would hurt his feelings, I cringe.

These women aren’t unintelligent nor are they week. They are just straight out people pleasers (sometimes not even knowing it) and perfectionists who are so concerned with the feelings of others that they often self sabotage themselves.

I know this because I was one of these women.

I was always worried about hurting his feelings. If I felt something seemed to bother him, I would either try to make it better or not do [...]

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Just Because They Say It Doesn’t Mean It’s True

Posted on By: Laura Bozarth
Just Because They Say It Doesn’t Mean It’s True

Just because a lot of people say it doesn’t mean it’s true.

 

I used to spend a lot of time asking people their opinions on things. I needed to know what I was doing was right, what I was saying was correct and if what other people thought about me was true. I was seeking out other peoples opinion because I thought somehow they knew more than me. In the end I really realized I was seeking out their approval.

What a horrible waste of time! Not to mention a great way to sabotage my already low self-esteem.

The kicker was when I would believe [...]

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3 Ways To “Be That Woman” Everyone Notices

Posted on By: Laura Bozarth
3 Ways To “Be That Woman” Everyone Notices

 

Be That Woman who decides to stand up for herself

Be That Woman who makes the change that so desperately needed

Be That Woman who makes the decision and moves forward

Be That Woman who supports other women as well as herself

Be That Woman he doesn’t care what other people think

Be That Woman who let’s go of guilt and shame

Be That Woman who loves with a big heart

Be That Woman decides what her income will be and makes it happen

 

How do you Be That Woman?

 

Stop window-shopping!

 

I spent most of my life doing just that. Looking into the windows of other people’s lives [...]

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My Article on Being A Good Girl On Your Tango

Posted on By: Laura Bozarth
My Article on Being A Good Girl On Your Tango

Are your good girl tendencies driving you crazy? Is it stopping you from stepping into a more successful, confident version of yourself?

THEN YOU MUST READ THIS! It’s my article on “Why Your Good Girl Attitude Is Making You Miserable”

Here’s the link: http://www.yourtango.com/experts/laura-bozarth/why-being-good-girl-ruining-your-life-and-how-you-can-change-it

 

 

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Are You Ready To Get Uncomfortable Yet?

Posted on By: Laura Bozarth
Are You Ready To Get Uncomfortable Yet?

After sending out my Get Comfortable In Your Own Skin home study program last week, I received a lot of different questions about the program and how people could benefit from it.

What I learned is that we are sometimes scared to be uncomfortable. The program focuses on getting comfortable in your own skin, but sometimes trusting that a new process or even outlook in life will work make us a little uncomfortable.

It feels counter intuitive when I say it, but it’s absolutely a hundred percent true. In order to get comfortable in our own skin we actually have [...]

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#1 Way to Save Time, Money, and Yourself

Posted on By: Laura Bozarth
#1 Way to Save Time, Money, and Yourself

When I talk to a group of women or even a single woman I’m often surprised at what they think they need in their lives to feel better.

For women who are in jobs they dislike I often hear “I need a side gig to turn into something to get me out of here”, meaning their job. They often see going into business themselves or a new job as a way to save themselves and their sanity.

Or they reach out to self-help to save their minds. They devour books, talks, and yoga retreats as a way to fix themselves. They [...]

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Are You Proud of Yourself?

Posted on By: Laura Bozarth
Are You Proud of Yourself?

Too many women struggle with confidence. Or the courage to believe they can create something much larger than themselves. Whether it’s the confidence to stand in front of a large group of people and speak or the courage to end a relationship that not serving you, you can boldly do these things when you allow yourself to be proud of what you have done in your life.

Whether it’s the big or little things, cultivating self pride is crucial in building better self esteem and taking risks required to achieve your goals.

As a good girl, self-pride was really difficult for [...]

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Better Than Just Being Nice

Posted on By: Laura Bozarth
Better Than Just Being Nice

Are you tired of being nice?

I know I sure am. It still feels a little mean to me when I say it, because I spent so much time trying to micromanage other people’s feelings but the truth of the matter is I got really tired of being nice.

2014 was a really transformational year for me in which I had to stop with all my nice girl stuff and create some real solid boundaries in my life. It wasn’t easy and it didn’t feel good. In fact I think it was one of the hardest things I had to do.

But [...]

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