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Stop Trying To Please Dysfunctional People

Stop Trying To Please Dysfunctional People

Were you the good child?

Were you always trying to do the “right” thing so an parent (who was probably unstable emotionally) didn’t get upset?

Did you bully yourself into perfection? You didn’t need any bullies because you were always you worst self critic.

You probably isolated yourself a lot too, because it was easier than experiencing the tension that you felt from others. You may have been a tad bit shy, but most of your reserved nature came from uncertainty of your environment.

All this stuffed up emotion, is hurting you, even now as an adult.

It’s time to stop.

You have the right to [...]

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He Said I was Rude

He Said I was Rude

He told me I was rude…

By “he” I mean a subscriber to my list who felt obliged to tell me that I was wrong .

When I saw the words on the page, my fingers immediately went to the reply button to respond. I had to let him know exactly what I meant so he understood my point of view.

That’s when it hit me… people pleasing again.

As women were are taught not to be rude. Not to say things that would hurt other people’s feelings or be perceived as aggressive. If we are perceived that way, we have to correct ourselves [...]

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