I used to be an all or nothing person and I have to admit that it was pretty painful. All of that pressure, stress, and intense effort put into one thing is a great recipe for exhaustion and burnout. Only I didn’t know that, I just thought if you wanted something bad enough you just pushed yourself as hard as possible. After years of this, I realized that though I was getting things accomplished, I felt like crap. I was also measuring myself with a level of intense perfection. Not a pretty scene and it became clear to me [...]
We are a society of quick fixes and this “now” urgency filters into most areas of our lives. I see it manifested in the way that we search for jobs. We want the perfect, shiny, easy solution to discovering and achieving what we really want to do in our professional lives. We’re given so many examples in t.v., radio, and movies of these fabulous people who seem to have it all figured out and are making millions. In most cases, the having it all together and figured out part is far from reality. If you knew all the factors [...]
When I began my training as a Career Coach, my coaching mentor told us that the key in finding your ideal career is to look back at your childhood. What did you love to do? What filled you with joy? It’s a question that I’ve attempted to answer and one that I asked my clients often. However, it is has was never easy for my clients, or myself, to answer. It’s not that there weren’t things we loved to do as children, it’s just that over the years it has become increasingly difficult to recall them. Years of work [...]
You can change your life fairly quickly by using a new approaches and changing your patterns. However, change is difficult. Many people claim to have the burning desire to change their job, career, and life. They become so desperate for change that they give up in frustration when it doesn’t happen right away.
I realized recently that change doesn’t happen until you are ready for it. How do you become ready for change? You align yourself in mind, body, and spirit with what you want. This became crystal clear to me when I picked up a book I was given 15 [...]
I recently saw a video about Daniel Pink’s new book “Drive”. For those of you unfamiliar with Daniel Pink he is the author of several best selling books about the changing world of work and focuses on human motivation. In this short video titled “Two Simple Questions That Can Change Your Life”, which can be found at www.danpink.com, Pink discusses the importance of having a mission statement about your career and what you want to accomplish. He says that if you really focus on what you want to accomplish, you can use your sentence to navigate your life. His [...]
It’s the beginning of another New Year. Some people may find themselves looking forward to meeting the challenges of the New Year and celebrating success in new ventures or careers. However, chances are many people who are reading this article are being impacted by the many changes that are affecting our economy. If you are out of work or worried about your job stability, 2010 is the year to really look within and examine some of the career ideas you have toyed with over the years.
If you are like me, you may have tons of ideas going through [...]
We typically live our lives in one of two ways: living a life that is dictated by unending responsibilities or living in a world that is full of abundant choices that we create. People are often shocked to find that these two places exist in the same universe. They question the fact that we have a choice because there are some things we just have to do.
The biggest shift happened in my life was when I learned the power of choice. Sure we may not want to do certain things like taking out the trash or even going [...]
We are told from early childhood “just to be ourselves”. It’s the solution for everything from meeting new friends to getting a job. The ironic thing is that most likely very few of us are actually being ourselves. A large portion of people in the United States are all about keeping up with the Jones’. You just have to look at the mortgage crisis and bankruptcy rates to see that many people were wallowing in debt just to seem like they had what “everyone else” had. Our children compete to get the same grades, get into the same schools, [...]
I received a lot of positive responses to last week’s blog that focused on leaving your comfort zone. It seems that most people recognize their comfort zone and feel an internal struggle of whether to stay in it or venture to the unknown. The people who leave that comfort zone are typically the most successful. It’s hard to believe that risk and all the fear involved can be freeing. It almost feels counterintuitive, but it’s actually not. It’s actually about intuitively realizing that your comfort protects you, but doesn’t promote you.
I was working with a client recently who [...]
When looking at the goals you want to achieve and the things you want to accomplish, it is easy to get to the place of overwhelm that I have mentioned frequently in my blogs. When I was first starting my business I had to allow myself to be comfortable with discomfort and overwhelm. Why? Because in order to reach your larger goals you need to get out of your comfort zone.
I attended a goals workshop in the beginning of this year. The speaker introduced me to a concept I had already known, but for some reason at that point [...]