Topic: Good Girls Relationships

Do You Live in Overwhelm or Excitement?

Posted on By: Laura Bozarth
Do You Live in Overwhelm or Excitement?


Or in between?

I see it all the time in my clients and it’s something I’ve had to work on in myself.  There’s this excitement of knowing exactly what you want and seeing it so clearly in your mind and then bam!  The overwhelm hits.Then you start living in the in between.  Feeling like you want your dream so badly that you can taste it, but your mind is thinking something will go wrong and it’s just way too much to handle.So you start creating excuses like you have to much on your plate to focus on it, you don’t [...]

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Love, Lipstick, and Letting Go

Posted on By: Laura Bozarth
Love, Lipstick, and Letting Go

 

 

Some days are better than others, even for a life coach.A couple of months ago I was in a funk getting frustrated doing some work on the computer that I really didn’t want to do.I tried all my usual tactics like a timer, reminding myself it was just temporary, and doing some reading.But the fact was I just really did not want to be doing that type of work, especially at that moment. It was a few days before a millennial birthday and I’d had a lot of personal things going on. As the frustration mounted and I told [...]

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The Number One Thing That Is Zapping Your Energy

Posted on By: Laura Bozarth
The Number One Thing That Is Zapping Your Energy

Don’t waste your time and energy asking everyone for their opinion on your life.

I was a couple of credits shy of finishing my masters degree, but really wasn’t interested in the field of study. I was just doing it because I would get an increase in pay at my job. I kept asking people “Should I go back to school to finish my masters?”, “Should I get a degree in something else, but I don’t know what I want to do…” and on and on. I let everyone weigh in on decisions about my life. It got to a [...]

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Why Doing It Yourself Doesn’t Work

Posted on By: Laura Bozarth
Why Doing It Yourself Doesn’t Work

 

I’ve always been a do-it-yourselfer (not sure if that’s even word). Fiercely independent, and at times stubborn, I always wanted to do things on my own. In the past it was difficult for me to ask for help. I always believed I could do it myself. Then along my journey I realized that trying to do it alone makes it much more difficult than it needs to be.

A part of me still thinks it’s true that you can do anything yourself, but the other part knows there’s a true power and a greater outcome when you ask [...]

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What My Dog Taught Me About Acting Vs. Believing

Posted on By: Laura Bozarth
What My Dog Taught Me About Acting Vs. Believing

 

A few years ago I lived in Austin, TX. When I arrived, my dog Aspen was completely terrified of water. Any time we went to a beach or lake she would run from the water like it was fire. If we attempted to take her on a dock she would root her feet so firmly on the ground it was impossible to move her.

I had pretty much given up on her and water. I happened to have a place that was very close to both lakes and creeks. After being there for four months, one day [...]

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Lessons From an Ex in Self Care

Posted on By: Laura Bozarth
Lessons From an Ex in Self Care

 

“Why don’t you stop being a martyr all the time and take care of yourself? Tell people what you want and ask for help.”

These words were spoken many years ago and fell on deaf ears for two reasons: First, because he was one of those crazy ex boyfriends who you look back upon and say, “why was I ever with him?”. Second because I had no idea what asking for what I needed meant.

He was right; I was acting like a martyr. I put everyone else’s [...]

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The One Thing You Really Need

Posted on By: Laura Bozarth
The One Thing You Really Need

It’s the week after the Fourth of July holiday in the US, and I imagine many of you had a busy week with friends and family.

The time off is invigorating, but I imagine you also might be feeling kind of a letdown.

The one thing you need to do after a holiday or something big is very simple: rest.

But it’s the one thing we avoid because we convince ourselves we need to be busy, productive and doing something social.

This became so clear to me recently when I went to the zoo, two times in one week.  The first time I went [...]

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8 Ways To Tame Your Inner Emotional Control Freak

Posted on By: Laura Bozarth
8 Ways To Tame Your Inner Emotional Control Freak

 

Are you an emotional control freak? If you said yes, don’t worry you’re not alone.

 

Here are 8 ways you can tame your inner control freak so you can feel amazing, create a better relationship with yourself, and be attractive to others.

 

1. Stop being a people pleaser. People pleasing is a sneaky way to control your own emotions. You may be feeling angry at the expectations others are putting on you, but control your anger just by saying yes. When you say no, it may feel awkward at first, but it actually frees you from controlling your emotions and what [...]

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Emotional Control Freak

Posted on By: Laura Bozarth
Emotional Control Freak

 

I am an emotional control freak.

 

It sounds funny to say but it’s true. It also feels a little scary to say, because by announcing it I am losing some of that control.

 

I have spent the majority of my life controlling my emotions and/or pretending they don’t even exist.

 

My preferred method of escape is just to avoid. I’ve had quite a number of traumatic things (as many of us have) happen to me throughout my life and when I recall them the thing that stands out the most is I just wanted to pretend it wasn’t happening. I would pretend [...]

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Why Connection Is Important For IBS Relief

Posted on By: Laura
Why Connection Is Important For IBS Relief

Like everyone else who saw the news on Monday afternoon, I was completely shocked at what happened at the Boston Marathon. I felt sadness for the families who lost loved ones. I also found myself feeling anxious and a bit scared. My husband was in New York City on September 11 and had to rush through the streets that were full of debris from the fallen buildings. We had friends who lost family members that day. At that time we also lived in the area of New Jersey in which the anthrax mail attack happened. I remember clearly being [...]

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