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Eat, Sleep, Read

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Eat, Sleep, Read

I was walking around downtown Asheville, NC last week and noticed a bookstore with a sign that said, “Eat, Sleep, Read”. On the other side of the window there was a sign for the children’s section that said, “Snack, Sleep, Read”. I found myself immediately attracted to both of these ideas. It got me thinking about how a lot of us adults live a life of tight schedules and don’t create the time for such a simple thing.

It’s funny when you think about it, because as a young child that is really what your life consisted of. Don’t you [...]

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Doing It Yourself

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Doing It Yourself

I’ve always been a do it your selfer (not sure if that’s even word!). Fiercely independent, and at times stubborn, I always wanted to do things on my own. In the past it was difficult for me to ask for help. I always believed I could do it myself.  Then along my journey I realized that trying to do it alone makes it much more difficult than it needs to be.

 

A part of me still thinks it’s true that you can do anything yourself, but the other part knows there’s a true power and a greater outcome when you [...]

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Making Time

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Making Time

Not having the time is the number one excuse we all use when we aren’t getting the results we want. I won’t argue with the fact that our lives are jammed packed with activity. For many of my clients it’s work, kids, house chores, and bed.

The difference between my clients who get what they want and the ones who don’t is time management. You can’t delete your job or time with your kids, but you can manage it differently.

Many of my clients are creative types: they write, paint, dance, and sing. They enjoy doing what they love. So they [...]

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Living in Fast Motion

Posted on By: Laura
Living in Fast Motion

I’ve been in fast motion my entire life. I wanted everything to happen now and not a second later.

If it happened fast, it was certain. Then I could relax and feel good. (Or so I thought).

I avoided the present moment of uncertainty because it seemed scary. The not knowing created lots of anxiety. So if I could just make it happen I could be in the future where I deemed everything to be okay.

Sounds stressful? Well it was.

Pushing forward in fast motion is never comfortable. And it doesn’t get you the change you really want.

The real kind of soul [...]

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Finding Your Something Else

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Finding Your Something Else

Next month marks two years since I left my safe, secure, and tenured job. I had spent 11 long years in a job that drained me mentally and physically. To say it was not the best use of my talents is an understatement. I always knew I wanted to do something else, but I had a hard time figuring out exactly what the “else” was. I was very driven and motivated, which made it all the more difficult because I had nowhere to place the motivation. Leaving me feeling stuck externally, but with the internal adrenaline to push forward [...]

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Your Job and Your Dreams

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Your Job and Your Dreams

I hear way too many of my clients berating themselves about the career they’ve chosen. It doesn’t seem to matter whether they’re making six figures or that they’re making a huge contribution to someone’s life. All they feel is crappy about it, all the time.

It may sound a little odd at first. Their jobs often fit their need for security, salary, and sick benefits. For some, it even fits the big S need: status. Basically their jobs give them what they “need”, so “why should I be complaining” many of them say.

That’s easy… because they’re not living their dreams.

They [...]

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Taking the Plunge

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Taking the Plunge

Never say never… After years of avoiding, then months of dipping her feet in and looking longingly at ducks, I watched a once terrified dog jump in the water and swim! In human terms: FEAR + INTENSE DESIRE= TAKING THE PLUNGE !

** The dog pictured is not my dog Aspen, though she looks almost exactly the same!

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When Surrendering is Not Your Thing

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When Surrendering is Not Your Thing

I have a problem with surrendering. From my research I know the biggest step in giving up resistance is to surrender, but I’ve always been a rebel.

I can’t do it.

I’ve never been able to.

I’ve wanted to, but it doesn’t happen.

I fight it.

I think it’s the word. When I hear surrender, I see myself lying down on the ground white flag in hand. Lifeless.

And that doesn’t feel good to me.

When I envision it, it makes my mind and body want to jump up, go do, run, and be free.

It makes me want to “make something happen”.

Besides being a “doer”, I [...]

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Why What You Say is Important

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Why What You Say is Important

I used to be a big time worrier. I would worry about everything: big, small or miniscule. From saying the “wrong” thing to the supermarket clerk to getting in trouble for some future mistake I hadn’t even made yet.

Worry consumed my mind most of the time. It was the biggest distraction I used to avoid my feelings and being in the present moment.

It disrupted my thoughts, goals, sleep, and conversations. I was always looking for assurance from others that my worries were not warranted.

It took a lot of practice and concentrated effort for me to beat it.

And it still [...]

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Trusting the Expert Within

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Trusting the Expert Within

When a potential client who is interested in my services approaches me and they immediately start listing all the self-help books they have read; I become very curious. Why?  It reminds me of the phenomena I notice frequently that I have coined the “boob job effect”.

The “boob job effect” is when I hear a woman saying that she has low self-esteem and increasing her breast size will give her better self-esteem. I haven’t been able to pinpoint the logic on that one.

I have nothing against self-help books or boob jobs. I think self-help books are a great resource in [...]

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