I spent a lot of time in the last two years wishing my life could go back to normal. Some days I longed for normal so badly that it made me cry. It wasn’t that I was just in pain from being injured in an accident; it was the frustration that I could no longer do some of the things that were normal to me.
In my career as a mind-body coach I watch people long for normal all the time. Many of my current clients suffer from IBS or digestive disorders. They talk often about wanting a normal life. [...]
Happy almost end of summer In the past the end of summer was very sad for me because it felt like an ending. This summer feels very different to me because it’s like a whole new beginning.
As many of you know, the last two years have been quite difficult for me. But they led to great things like a greater focus on health and wellness in my business and learning how to use my emotions in ways that can benefit my life in positive ways.
They’ve also led to great people and places, and experiences that [...]
I love to travel. I always have. Though it was stressful for me, I did it anyway. For me the thrill of a new adventure, seeing a new place, and being out of my comfort zone intrigued me so much that it far outweighed my fear.
But it wasn’t easy.
I did learn ways to adapt. I was always pretty good with taking flights, that didn’t seem to bother me. It was hours after the flight and eating travel food that I noticed tightness and pain in my stomach. I would check the hotels I was staying at to make sure [...]
In my last blog, I shared about how being in pain helped me in creating a flow in how I make time for the things that are important in my life. It meant eliminating many things that were holding me back and adding things that I never thought I would do.
I wanted to follow up by sharing with you some specific ways in which I was able to make the change from making excuses to making time.
At first, you may need to help from friends or family members who can help you in clearing out the clutter [...]
Not having the time is the number one excuse we all use when we aren’t getting the results we want. I won’t argue with the fact that our lives are jammed packed with activity. For many of my clients it’s work, kids, house chores, and bed. If you are suffering from physical pain or IBS, that adds a whole new level of stress into your daily routine. Regardless of what you may be dealing with in your life, the difference between my clients who get what they want and the ones who don’t is time management. You can’t delete [...]
We hear often in the self-help world how important self-care is. However, we don’t do it enough and it’s because we don’t know how. I think we have a perception that there’s a right way to do self-care.
I laughed inside when my client thanked me for not telling her to do yoga and pilates. That’s the funny thing about self-care; you don’t have to do anything. I notice a lot of people putting self-care into their routine as a forced thing. Then they feel tired out from it and forget the fun stuff.
The interesting thing is that self-care is [...]
I just watched the Amy Cuddy, social psychologist and assistant professor at Harvard University, video on body language.
She talked about body language and how it affects our entire lives.
It got me thinking about how body language affects our reaction to discomfort.
She discusses successful people having higher levels of testosterone and lower levels of cortisol. And how the way we posture our bodies can naturally produce these two things. So high-power poses can produce good hormones, which equals feeling confidence and success where as low power poses increases our cortisol levels, which is our stress hormone. So staying in a [...]
We all have our share of challenges over the course of our lives. What I have learned from my clients that successfully transition themselves in moments of challenge is that they understand the difference between giving up and giving in.
I used to think I had to give up and give into situations or circumstances I was uncomfortable with. In my mind giving up and giving in were the same thing.
Then I realized that I don’t have to give up to give in. It’s actually the complete opposite
You need to give in to heal a wound, accept a situation, or [...]
“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in the bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.” Anais Nin
I realized recently that I was still carrying a piece of that in the bud person with in me. Though I have made huge strides over the last few years there was still the part of me who wanted to hide in the shadow. Avoid discomfort, conflict, or just plain speaking my mind.
The thing about that little bud, that “little part of me”, that I was carrying inside was that sometimes I relied on it [...]
It is definitely the time of year when we feel like everyone should be fa-la-laing and cheerful. We spend a lot of time decorating, baking, and planning parties. We want to create a perfect holiday and expect everyone to act accordingly.
Except they don’t.
And if you’re anything like me, you try to fix everything just right so everything feels good.
But you can’t.
That’s the biggest thing I’ve learned about the holidays and life in general. Fixing never works. It drains your energy and robs you of the present moment. It also doesn’t allow you to accept people for exactly what they [...]