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Creating Inner Freedom

Posted on By: Laura
Creating Inner Freedom

The concept of going to extreme measures to find yourself has always been a mystery to me. I am always curious about why people think they have to sit in hot tents after fasting (James Arthur Ray style) or walk over hot coals to be enlightened. The most adventurous go on a long journey throughout the desert with no water. They all do it to prove that they can overcome their fears and withstand the anxiety created by situations that most people would never attempt.

There’s a reason why most of us wouldn’t do it: it hurts!

I’ve never done those [...]

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When Your Thoughts Go Wild

Posted on By: Laura
When Your Thoughts Go Wild

Here’s just a few thoughts I have heard from my clients this week:

I hate my job and it is ruining my life.

I can’t have any fun unless I am pain free.

I am worthless because I haven’t written a best selling novel.

I can’t be happy unless… insert any situation here.

These thoughts can drive you crazy, if you let them.

I like to call this thoughts gone wild syndrome. It starts with one self-defeating thought and then it turns into mind swirl so huge that you feel depressed in about 5 minutes because you’ve already created a full-blown personal catastrophe. At that [...]

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5 Ways to Move from Wanting to Getting

Posted on By: Laura
5 Ways to Move from Wanting to Getting

Here’s a short and sweet list I shared with my e-zine readers on how to move away from struggle and towards joy.

1. Rest: The most important thing we can do to nourish our mind and body. However, many of us put it last on the list and squeeze in whatever amount of time meets our minimum requirements. Focus on getting as much rest as possible, you’ll see a shift in your energy and your thoughts about what you can accomplish.

2. Change Your Thinking: Instead of focusing on why you can’t do something, change the wording. Focus on how you [...]

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Need Clarity? Start Complaining

Posted on By: Laura
Need Clarity? Start Complaining

“So it’s okay to be unhappy?” a client recently asked me. Yes, yes, and yes! I’ve been noticing that some of my clients think that it is not okay (and even down right wrong) to have any feeling that is not positive. “But I’ve been trying to follow the law of attraction so I have been telling myself to avoid all negativity and be positive”. How boring and completely unrealistic, I thought. Law of attraction is a great tool, but it requires you to be real about your emotions.

Sadly too many of us believe that we have to be [...]

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Add a Little Drama

Posted on By: Laura
Add a Little Drama

As a recovering perfectionist, I felt very tickled when I heard this line from the movie Letters from Juliet: “Saying I’m a perfectionist, is just another way of saying: I’m too chicken to do it”. I can laugh at this now, because I see it’s the truth. And that’s not say that I never fall back into my perfectionist a.k.a. chicken ways, it just means I become aware of it when it happens.

If you’re right smack dab in the middle of perfectionism’s sticky web, it may take some time to pry its tangled web from you.

My suggestion is simple: [...]

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Creating Boundaries

Posted on By: Laura
Creating Boundaries


I have been out of town for a few months and had the pleasure of finding two great hairstylists while I was away. Inspired by the great cuts I received, I decided to try out a new salon back home. I got a recommendation of a salon (not a stylist) from a friend and off I went.

Upon arriving at my appointment I was greeted by the stylist who said hello and put a cape over my shirt immediately. Before we even got to the sinks something felt off to me. I immediately felt uncomfortable. Instead of ignoring it I [...]

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An Act of Personal Bravery

Posted on By: Laura
An Act of Personal Bravery

Bravery, it’s a big word. At least I thought it was. Then I noticed during my time in Texas that people were using it often and directing it at me. At first I was kind of shocked by it, but then I realized it’s all in the way you perceive it.

To me, bravery meant performing a huge, courageous act like fighting in a war or escaping from an oppressive regime. All the things Hollywood movies are made of. That’s what bravery meant to me.

Then I began to understand it in a much smaller, simpler way.

I moved to Texas alone [...]

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Art, Expectations, and Your Body

Posted on By: Laura
Art, Expectations, and Your Body

I recently watched an interview with James Frey, author of “A Million Little Pieces”. Oprah was interviewing him a few years after their fall out over the truthiness issue.

Frye was sharing how he had written “A Million Little Pieces” by sitting alone in a room everyday for 9 to 10 years writing. Initially upon hearing that my thought was “torture!” Then he went on to say it was like complete freedom. Huh? He wrote about whatever he wanted to write about in any way he felt like writing it. There were no rules and no one telling him what [...]

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What Matters More Than the Letters After Your Name

Posted on By: Laura
What Matters More Than the Letters After Your Name

I met with a new client this week. Though she was new to me, her story was a familiar one that I had heard from many clients. She came to me regarding a lack of confidence in the workplace. She wanted to be more assertive and play a bigger role, but was crippled by feelings of indecision and self-doubt. When I asked her why she didn’t assert herself more in the workplace she said she simply didn’t know enough. In my work with clients I have found that this is not true 99% of the time.

When I asked about [...]

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Why Failure is Good and Experimenting is Even Better

Posted on By: Laura
Why Failure is Good and Experimenting is Even Better

In my daily search for interesting opinions there was one article that really stood out to me this week. It was entitled “Visualize Failure” by Peter Bregman of the Harvard Business Review. It caught my eye because an article promoting failure is the last thing you would expect from a school that has educated some of the most successful people in the world. Even the idea itself of expecting failure seems so contrary to everything we learn from childhood to adulthood. However, in it’s simplicity it makes perfect complete sense.

In the article Bregman is discussing a kayaking trip in [...]

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